Love has many different meanings to everyone. There are many stages of love at different ages and different types of love. My definition of love is caring about someone so much that your like would be very different without them there would always be a little piece of yourself missing, your life is incomplete when they are away and you would do anything to protect them or to make them happy.
When I think of love I think of love as a very powerful emotion. An emotion that allows you to care for people. When you think of love you can think of one word, and that is relationship, you can envision two people holding hands.
Alina Ruigrok says that you can and know what true love is, what we are not aware of is that there are different trends of love. Knowing about love trends can be helpful and may also help keep a relationship together. Trends can differ and also be the same. “It will help you come to a deeper understanding of what type of lover you are and your partner as well. People, whose personalities follow the emotional trend, are lovers who pay attention more to the meaning behind things, instead of the thing itself. A man who does not really care for picnics on the beach may still love the event due to the intention behind it. He sees the effort his mate put into it and sees the love and caring meaning that his mate had when the idea was thought of and planned. Emotional lovers are sensitive and love sharing with their partners and are also very spiritual. They do not hold back from expressing their true feelings.”
“A Creative trend follower on the other hand, may have some of the same traits as an emotional lover, but focuses more on discovering new things and trying them out, taking risks for a bigger thrill. They love to plan and be a part of interesting activities with their lovers because they like going through adventures and new territories together. These types of lovers are found to be quite exciting because they seem to be more mysterious and full of surprises and imagination.”
“Then you have the traditional trend follower, who likes to follow the rules of what society considers the right way to handle a relationship. They believe in having one partner, following the dating and romance guides to the point (bringing a girl some flowers when picking her up at the door for a date, just to mention one). They also believe in being organized, being financially responsible and planning the events that will take place in their lives with their partners.”
“Those are the main trends that most people fall into following. This does not mean that a person who has a certain love trend cannot carry qualities from other trends, however. It just means they in general carry that love personality. There is no trend better than the other either. Each trend is unique and interesting in its own way. When two people follow the same trend, it is fabulous because they both know exactly what the other is fond of and what to expect as well. There are hardly mixed signals. Having different trends is also a wonderful thing. When a couple has their individual love personality, it opens the door for each one to learn new ways to love expressions and can create a great trend combination!” (Ruigrok)
Toni Coleman talks about True Love and Chemistry, “chemistry is limited to one's physical response to another person. It lacks an entire dimension that resides in our values, beliefs, personalities and worldview.” Toni says that chemistry is classified as “A strong emotion” and this can turn into something great. But Toni says there can be some thing missing, it is often called “spiritual affinity". It's the hidden element of chemistry. It's when two beings meet and connect on a deeper level. It can only be felt in the heart and soul. It's about friendship, respect, humor and the feelings of warmth and contentment that come when you are in his/her presence.
People often report finding one without the other. This is understandably a cause of great frustration and confusion about whom should we choose and why. In order to understand this better, it is helpful to know how and when each facet of chemistry occurs.” “"Spiritual affinity" develops over time and repeated contact. When these feelings begin to emerge, the brain produces endorphins. These are more like morphine and result in an increased sense of calm that reduces anxiety and helps to build attachment. As relationships move into this phase they are characterized by more comfort, commitment and friendship.” Toni says that spiritual affinity is something that is needed in a relationship, as well as physical attraction. “Physical attraction (or lust) generally begins during our first contact with someone. It can DEVELOP into something more over time, yet some pull are there from the beginning. The chemical that results from this attraction (and intensifies it) is phenyl ethylamine - or PEA. It is a naturally occurring substance in the brain. Essentially, it is a natural amphetamine. It stimulates us and increases both physical and emotional energy. The attraction causes us to produce more PEA, which results in those dizzying feelings associated with romantic love. Another substance that is released by PEA is dopamine. This chemical increases a desire to be physically close and intimately connected.”
When these chemicals are being secreted in larger doses, they send signals from the brain to the other organs of the body. If you wonder why you or someone is attracted to the "wrong" person, it may be because you are high on the physical response to these substances, which overwhelm your ability to use your head and exercise "good judgment and common sense". (Coleman)
There are many different types of love. Kid love, teenage love, friendship love and marriage love. Each of these types has some similarities and differences with them. When you're a little kid you don't know what love is. You think of love as loving your parents, family and friends but children don't get the idea of truly loving someone. When people think of teenagers and them being in love, they think they are nuts and it is completely impossible for someone so young to be in love so quickly and early. Teenagers tend to find love quickly at their age. They can simply fall in love after spending weeks or months with a person. Friendship love is a different type of feeling. To me friendship love is caring for someone without the same personal feelings of emotion like when you are in love. Family love is the type of love that will never leave you no matter what.
These are people you have been with your whole life; the kind of love that you have for them is indescribable and very different. Marriage love is the, you want to spend the rest of your lives together and never want to be apart. You will do whatever it takes to keep them happy and cared for.
To me love is something that can never be easily replaced or given up. Love may not be shown the way we want it to, love has its arguments, disagreements and fights through and through but Love is worth the trouble and the risk of what comes along with love. Love gives that special meaning to life; everyone needs that special meaning in their life.
Citations:
Toni, Coleman. "True Love and Chemistry: Exploring Myth and Reality." 2008. Google. http://www.enotalone.com/article/2946.html, 12/05/08
Alina , Ruigrok. "What is your Love Personality?" 2008. Google. http://www.enotalone.com/article/2282.html, 12/05/08
Definition of Love. 2008. Google. 11/22/08 www.brainyquote.com,
"The meaning of love." none. Sir Froggies Positive News Network. 11/22/08
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